The file Behavioural_Strategies.pdf is highly recommended :)
words such as:
try to make
instead of demands.
Try opening requests with phrases such as:
'The Golden Rule'
- overall, and
as a primary means of de-escalating behaviour. Always
demonstrate empathy towards the child first, before taking
any other action such as trying to explain your point of
view to the child. Most parents are too quick to explain a
situation to the child, to provide guidance or teach a
lesson. But a child in a meltdown state will not calm down
until he or she feels like they have been heard and
understood. Empathy is critical not only to de-escalate a
crisis, but for your child's overall mental well being -
They need to be validated.
great success can happen by making 'things' into a game -
like getting dressed, brushing teeth, having a shower,
getting out to car, etc, etc... but be aware that the
interest can wane suddenly, so be careful not to over-play
the activity, and certainly avoid any and all hint at
manipulation - and ALWAYS have a Plan B, C, D, E, etc...
ready in the wings :) Keeping it fun can achieve a lot :)